Psychologist, Dr Gbojunbola Abiri talks about what it really means to take good care of your mind on #WithChude
She talks about her own traumas, why therapists also need therapy, her work at the Neuropsychiatric Hospital, Yaba, and dealing with high profile and everyday clients who are suffering from self-stigma, and stigma from others.
“By this time my husband had left because everything was fine, everything had gone well. Then, it was like we were going back to theatre and i asked for what and he said we are going to take out the uterus.
“For me, it was a moment of truth. You know how easy it is for a physician to tell someone ahan is it not this thing we’ve done like 1000 times? But wen it is you, its different. and then i thought about it. I was not yet 40, I mean i feel like I’ve had all the children i wanted to have, but having a part of you taken out just seemed different. So i called my husband and he has the calmest nature. His patience can be extremely anoying to me. I coud be like “Let’s do this, lets do this” and he’ll be like so calm.
“I called him and said Doctor said i should call you and he asked “Are you bleeding” I said yes and he said we are going back to theatre, and he said what for? So I said we are going to take out the uterus and he said nothing is going to happen, they’re not going to take out the uterus.
“That kind of calmness that I wish i could slap him but we were over the phone and this was reality.”
