In this introspective and deeply vulnerable conversation on #WithChude, media personality and wellness advocate Adeola Kingsley-James opens up about fear, childhood wounds, therapy, healing, and the quiet ways unresolved pain continues to shape adult lives. Sitting with host Chude Jideonwo, the conversation explores emotional, mental, and spiritual realities many people carry silently, while questioning what it truly means to confront yourself honestly. Reflecting on the experience, Chude describes the episode as one that “felt like therapy for both of us.”
Throughout the conversation, Adeola speaks candidly about self-worth, emotional work, and the subconscious beliefs that often shape how people see themselves. “The hardest part isn’t replacing negative thoughts,” she shares. “It’s confronting the old beliefs that created them in the first place. Healing begins with noticing how harshly you speak to yourself.” Together, they unpack how the words people repeatedly speak over themselves can slowly influence their minds, bodies, and lives, while also examining the hidden need for validation, attention, and acceptance that quietly drives many human behaviours.
Adeola also opens up about her personal healing journey through therapy and hypnotherapy, admitting that she initially approached the process with fear and suspicion. “Hypnotherapy felt frightening to me and even forbidden,” she reveals. “But after I experienced it, I understood why healing sometimes comes in forms we were taught to fear. It became one of the best decisions I ever made.” The conversation further explores childhood experiences, rebellion, and emotional neglect, with Adeola reflecting, “Some children don’t rebel because they are bad. Sometimes, rebellion is the only language they know for asking to be seen.”
In one of the most emotional moments of the episode, Adeola recalls a life-changing interaction with her daughter that deeply shifted her perspective on living and healing. “The day my daughter asked me if I was happy or sad was one of the most emotional moments of my life,” she says. “In that moment, she gave me a reason to keep living.”
WATCH EPISODE: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MnIyMSyV8PQ&t=87s
